Check Your Expectations
The expectations we have of our relationships often make us miserable. We expect a lot from our partner: romance, emotional support, great sex, friendship, stimulating conversation and shared parenting. In the past, extended family and even the community provided much of this support. Buddhism teaches that our capacity to enjoy life is not governed by having all our expectations met. This is liberating because it means contentment in our relationship can be cultivated from within—— it’s not fully determined by whether our partners are how we want them to be.
What To Do
Make a list of all the things you’re expecting from your partner. Which ones could you get from others? Cultivate connections with friends and family to reduce the load on your partner.