See Your Partner With Beginner’s Eyes As your relationship matures, many of us stop seeing our partner for who they are in the present moment and relate to an outdate image of them created long ago. Seeing them in this fixed way invites dull ...
Accentuate the positive Many women enjoy venting to their friends about their husbands and and there’s no doubt it can make us feel better in short terms.But beware: if friends always validate our complaints about our partners, this will kee ...
Notice Negative Thoughts One of most important concepts in Budhhist practice is that not all our thoughts are true or trustworthy. While our thoughts can be helpful, they can also sabotage us and our relationships. As a species, we are naturally p ...
Work On Forgiveness Many of us are in relationships where apologies are few and far between and grudges are held for decades. In Budhhism, grudge-holding is seen as detrimental to our karma. It is said to punish the grudge-holder more than a offen ...
Check Your Expectations The expectations we have of our relationships often make us miserable. We expect a lot from our partner: romance, emotional support, great sex, friendship, stimulating conversation and shared parenting. In the past, extende ...
Know That Suffering is Inevitable Buddha’s First Noble Truth is that suffering, unsatisfactoriness and stress are part of life and long-term relationships. Although this might sound depressing, if you really take this on board, your toleranc ...
THERE WILL ALWAYS BE CHANGE Humans are driven to resist change but change is one thing that’s a certainty in life.Buddha called this “impermanence” and said that rejection of this fact —— and an expectation that someone else will ...
Many of us enter a committed relationship thinking we have found the person of our dreams. And for the first 18 months or so this can seem like the case. But when the gloss wears off and the relation ship becomes more grounded in reality, dissatis ...
1. Commitment to their marriage . One couple shared that they had both come from divorced parents and right from the beginning they committed to working out their challenges so they would not inflict divorce on their children. Another couple obser ...
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